Lesbian Problems

Size totally matters when it comes to hair tools… 

I don’t think I’ve ever fallen out of love with anyone I’ve been with. Not completely anyway.

The ultimate It Girl that’s captured everybody’s hearts and minds social media feeds might be queer. Julia Fox was recently interviewed by Ziwe for the second season of Ziwe’s late-night […]

FROM THE ARCHIVES: The game begins. I chase the ball instead of my thoughts. I sweat the way I’ve started to at night, my body washing all of its parts that used to hold her. The plate of my chest, the crook of my arm, and the crevice of my thighs all weep as I sleep. 

As a semi-closeted Hindu lesbian newcomer to a rural town at the southern tip of the world, this haunts me.

The first time, I was on my back, at her tongue’s mercy.

One leader of the country’s far-right Mi Hazánk party shredded the book in a public display, calling it “homosexual propaganda.”

“I think that, when you layer gender and sexuality, and race on storytelling, it gets harder and harder and harder to tell your story sometimes, and the amount of space or permission you have to do that can really become smaller, and smaller and smaller.”

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be a day of feeling less than. And it won’t be for her. Especially not with the giant cookie we plan on making.

One of the most amazing gifts I have ever received was a book my girlfriend had made for me. She titled it, “My Reasons Why” and it included all the reasons she loved me.

There’s no sadness that a gay bar can’t cure.

Here’s how we make it work.

I say “yes” to Dionysus and the joy of being in both the lightness and the darkness.

In spite of the pain, I’ve found a strength and trust in myself.

Both addiction and queerness can be shrouded in shame as the messaging feels the same: there’s something “wrong” with me.

Stick to your boundaries and honor your needs, and you’ll be on track for a happier holiday at home. 

Boo!

There is no need to throw on some low rise jeans and go as Shane from “The L Word” for the fifth year in a row. I got your back, girl. And I have the perfect costume ideas that will ensure you show up dressed to impress (your ex).

As a child who grew up in the 2000s, I didn’t see any LGBTQ+ people in the media until around 2008, when I was 13. Ellen DeGeneres had just gotten […]

FROM THE ARCHIVES: “She slipped her fingers beneath my panties and smiled mischievously, her pointer finger entering my body as if it had always been her home.”

“When I’m watching television, especially something that’s very queer-centered, I try to turn that part of my brain off. But — spoiler alert — you can’t. It’s always there.”

Rather than feel that I had fallen into some lesbian version of Candyland, my attraction to the women around me reminded me that my sexuality likely marked me as an outsider. 

Do you want to date a boss-bitch? Well, guess what? A boss-bitch is a boss-bitch because she’s paying attention to everything. And honestly, it’s quite frankly annoying to have a partner who pays that close attention to you, who notices when you’re slipping through the cracks.

What this episode reminded me of is the beauty in f*cking up. She’s an unconventional beauty for sure, but anything powerful will never be run-of-the-mill.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: On the sidewalk between our homes stood a concrete square with our initials carved into it. A newly installed storm grate soon replaced it.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Our breath fought the frost and we pulled at each other needfully.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Our romance was a mirage. It had been written there on my wall all along.

I became Emily Alexa Freeman, my third alias, with a fairy tale for a backstory. I had one overriding rule: tell no one.

“Show up to the bars,” Street says. It’s not enough to lament the loss of the lesbian bars of old; we have to support those that are still here, “to show up to the brick and mortar. It’s a form of activism.” 

Prepare to be parched.

“Pageantry definitely is evolving.”

“I wish everyone would get rid of this idea that being coy is sexy. It’s not sexy. You’re just playing games and manipulating people. It’s okay to play cool and hang back, but don’t do it just to manifest mystery.”

“The sad thing is that there are couples who gave up on the love they had and didn’t keep fighting. That made me realize I will never be that person and give up.”

Although the future will likely come with social distancing restrictions, it’s good to know that the pandemic hasn’t completely robbed us of these beloved spaces. 

“There’s a cultural stigma about infertility because as Latinas, we’re often raised to believe we’ll be mothers, and that it should come naturally. We’re pressured or asked constantly if we’ll have children.”

“I was more afraid when I went out to clubs, dressed in drag, than I was when I was befriending a drug dealer or up in some apartment buying for the NYPD, with no gun or shield. I would’ve rather been found dead, in some dumpster, because a dealer found out I was a cop than been busted in drag.”