Sex + Dating

The only thing that feels better than a hitachi wand is putting queer money back into queer businesses.

If the love in your life happens to be a tree-hugging, oil-rubbing, bath-bombing, recycling kind of babe, this is the gift guide for you!

“Thank God, and thank the lesbians.” 

One of the most amazing gifts I have ever received was a book my girlfriend had made for me. She titled it, “My Reasons Why” and it included all the reasons she loved me.

There’s no sadness that a gay bar can’t cure.

Here’s how we make it work.

I say “yes” to Dionysus and the joy of being in both the lightness and the darkness.

We adamantly recommend that all who consider venturing out to any public event continue to intelligently and carefully assess any risks involved in attending such events. We love you!

Merry Litmas!

People rather sheepishly sat around in a big circle waiting for a dominatrix to start a game of spin-the-bottle…

Both addiction and queerness can be shrouded in shame as the messaging feels the same: there’s something “wrong” with me.

A little party never hurt nobody.

Set in the mid aughts, “Girls on Jane,” explores the characters’ personal crises and sexual escapades as they navigate life and the lesbian dating scene. It’s a world away from Covid, a throwback to the time when meeting people required more than simply swiping right. 

Two people can definitely fit in a single sleeping bag *wink wink*.

Thanks to us being #vaxedandwaxed, we are free to reenter the debaucherous, sparkling, hedonistic, and glorious world of LGBTQ+ nightlife.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: “She slipped her fingers beneath my panties and smiled mischievously, her pointer finger entering my body as if it had always been her home.”

Do you know what I longed for during the pandemic with the feverish intensity usually reserved for an irresistibly sexy ex you know you’ll never get the chance to have sex with ever again?

Lesbian Nightlife. 

Dyke Nightlife. 

Queer Nightlife. 

Rather than feel that I had fallen into some lesbian version of Candyland, my attraction to the women around me reminded me that my sexuality likely marked me as an outsider. 

Do you want to date a boss-bitch? Well, guess what? A boss-bitch is a boss-bitch because she’s paying attention to everything. And honestly, it’s quite frankly annoying to have a partner who pays that close attention to you, who notices when you’re slipping through the cracks.

What this episode reminded me of is the beauty in f*cking up. She’s an unconventional beauty for sure, but anything powerful will never be run-of-the-mill.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: On the sidewalk between our homes stood a concrete square with our initials carved into it. A newly installed storm grate soon replaced it.

“Regardless of how society has changed in the last 17 years,” Kate Moenning, who plays Shane, tells GO, “what hasn’t changed is the primal desire to be seen and to love and be loved.” 

Dave’s Lesbian Bar could be coming to Astoria, with your help.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Our breath fought the frost and we pulled at each other needfully.

FROM THE ARCHIVES: Our romance was a mirage. It had been written there on my wall all along.

“Show up to the bars,” Street says. It’s not enough to lament the loss of the lesbian bars of old; we have to support those that are still here, “to show up to the brick and mortar. It’s a form of activism.” 

Prepare to be parched.

You arrive in a new city, filled with new faces, tastes, sounds, and eventually, if you play your cards right, you’ll end up in a room of queers, sweaty and synchronized, the same baseline surging through your spines.

As the world opens up, it’s time to turn all of your t-shirts into crop tops. 

“I wish everyone would get rid of this idea that being coy is sexy. It’s not sexy. You’re just playing games and manipulating people. It’s okay to play cool and hang back, but don’t do it just to manifest mystery.”

“The sad thing is that there are couples who gave up on the love they had and didn’t keep fighting. That made me realize I will never be that person and give up.”

“There’s a cultural stigma about infertility because as Latinas, we’re often raised to believe we’ll be mothers, and that it should come naturally. We’re pressured or asked constantly if we’ll have children.”

Love is love, and us lesbians definitely have some of the biggest hearts out there.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

“Be kind to yourself. MS can be frightening and overwhelming. Know you’re not alone and there’s a beautiful community of MSers online ready to help.”

Sure, Valentine’s Day is about love, but mostly, it’s about candy.