Have you ever been texting with someone you’ve just started dating and been like really confused by their texting style or response? Yeah, me too. But don’t worry—it’s most likely just ~how they text~ and you might have to figure out their quirks. We’ve all got some.
And since texting is the cornerstone of how our relationships are built in this millennial world—it’s really important to be able to understand why someone is communicating the way they are. Don’t worry, resident queer astrologer here to help! Every sign has different ways they text, especially when you’re starting to get to know a person. Read your own sign for the roast but mainly read the sign of your new bae to better understand her.
Aries: To The Point
Aries has 300 unread messages and no intention of reading them. Ever. However, when Aries wants something or someone, there’s no ignoring them. They’re the sign that’s most guilty of sending multiple texts that say the same thing over and over. “Wanna hang out?”, “There’s this event on Saturday, want to go?,”and “Hey I’m free Friday! :)”.
Basically, there’s no beating around the bush. Texting is for when you’re ready to set a time and place to meet and you’re not about to sit around having a whole conversation through your phone. Don’t bother sending Aries updates on your day. They’re not interested in something if there’s no point in doing it. Send them a time, location, and whether you’re going to be there. Nothing else. It’s the easiest way to get their attention.
Taurus: The Wait
Patience is Taurus’s middle name. Maybe it takes them, or you, a few days to reply to a text. What’s changed? Not much. Taurus has been just chilling and they didn’t charge their phone. The thing is, Taurus likes the wait. They like the anticipation. If you’re hooking up with a Taurus, be prepared to wait, wait, and wait.
You know that stage of meeting someone when you’re not sure whether sass is going to sound mean or not because you don’t know each other’s humor styles yet? Well, don’t ever sass a Taurus through text. They won’t get it. They’ll believe that you’re being mean. You need to wait until you see them in person to act like that. Taurus is nothing but straightforward. Read everything a Taurus sends you in Professor McGonagall’s voice. This is how Taurus is reading your text messages.
Gemini: Available When Unavailable
Gemini will always respond. Right away. No matter what they’re doing. Keep that in mind when you text a Gemini. Maybe they’re in the middle of a meeting or stoned out of their mind. Gemini will respond. Does it mean that they’re in a situation where they can pay attention to what you have to say? NO.
Sometimes you text a Gemini and you have their immediate attention. You text back and forth for hours and have a great conversation. Sometimes you text a Gemini and you get responses that clearly tell you that they can’t be bothered about what you’re telling them that second. However, instead of ignoring the text like most signs, Gemini will actually text you back saying “I can’t be bothered with this shit right now”.
Just because a Gemini responds to you doesn’t mean they’re listening. Learn to tell the difference and, if Gemini hurts your feelings, know that they will act completely differently a few hours later.
Cancer: Heartfelt Silent Treatment
Out of all the signs, Cancer is the one most likely to send you quotes from Thought Catalog about their deepest, darkest feelings. They’ll send you confessions of things you had no idea people even confess anymore. They’ll talk about private day-dreams and hidden fears. That is, they will when they like you and trust you.
Before they get to that point, Cancer will hold you at arms distance and see if you’re worth the emotional turmoil of falling in love. You thought Scorpio is the sign that likes to test people? Cancer does this even more but without anyone—you or them—even realizing it.
Don’t leave a Cancer hanging when they reach out to you and—if you do—give them clear reasons why. Unlike Scorpio, they will believe you—they just need to be reassured a lot. If you don’t, remember that Cancer is not only sensitive but that they have a perfect memory. They will never forget anything, even if it’s something that doesn’t matter and even if they never bring it up. If you don’t hear from them for a while, it’s likely they’re subconsciously giving you the silent treatment.
Leo: A Rechargeable Battery
Leo’s text a lot and they don’t really care if you text back or not. If you don’t, they’ll just get their daily dose of attention from someone else. If you want to keep a Leo interested you’re better off giving them 100% of your attention, whenever they ask for it.
Send your Leo memes, emojis, and “I’m thinking of you”s. They’re not ones for full-on texting so much because Leo’s have a lot going on in life and expect you to as well—they just want to hear from you. In fact, they might not reply right away but they don’t expect you too either. When they respond, however, they’ll do it enthusiastically. Leo’s are like a rechargeable battery—the more energy you put into one, they more energy they have to give back. Give a lot of attention to Leo because you always get it back in the end.
Virgo: Critical, Clear, and Awkward
Virgo’s are fairly adaptable and will change their texting style to suit yours. However, keep in mind that this earth sign is a tactile listener. Virgo’s have no idea what to say in text messages and are embarrassed about it. They will respond on time and be generally available but always have the heavy-handed awkwardness of an earth sign trying to text. Ask them if they’re free anytime next week and you’ll get their schedule Sunday to Saturday listed out in full. Have they seen the new “Blade Runner”? They’ll let you know that they think it’s an orientalist fantasy about brooding white men but miss that you’re just asking them to hang.
It takes a lot of work for Virgo to text because they put a lot of thought into everything they say. Nothing is ever simple—ask them how their day is and you’ll know about every stomachache and train delay. If Virgo doesn’t initiate texting, it’s because there’s so much to say and impossible to prioritize any of it. This is why they prefer to respond to what you have to say rather than choosing a topic.
Libra: Light and Sweet
Libra’s have a lot of texting anxiety. That’s why texting with them has to be even on all sides. A Libra won’t text you back if they see that a conversation is too one sided on their side, whether that’s in length or number. If they send you an emoji, they expect an emoji back. If they send you a paragraph, they expect a paragraph back. Keep it balanced and you’ll keep them engaged.
This is a sign that likes to have short text dialogues at some point during the day. Don’t worry—they’ll find a way to make each conversation light and short so that it’s not overwhelming. They just like to send a couple back and forth messages during a lunch break or when waiting for the train. They’re also not looking for emotionally revealing messages. All they want is a little flirtation to sweeten their day.
Scorpio: Painstakingly Light-Hearted
Most likely, you won’t get a reply back immediately after you text a Scorpio. They are far too busy overthinking their reply. Any text that you get from a Scorpio has been written, edited carefully, rewritten, and passed by their friends. This isn’t exactly a sign that will go for light-hearted texting conversations. That would make them far too anxious. Every brief joke or flirtation actually takes a painstakingly huge amount of effort for Scorpio to craft out.
Know that if you don’t hear from a Scorpio, they’re still thinking about you. This is the sign that is least likely to ghost you, despite the dearth of replies. This is because Scorpio’s don’t really understand what ghosting is. Ghosting is an active decision for Scorpio’s and not just something that seems to happen like it is for Libra (the ghosting champion). Because Scorpio has to be self-aware while ghosting someone, they’ll feel too guilty to do it right and still obsess over and reply to someone they’re actively trying to ghost.
Sagittarius: Stylistic Misspellings
Who knows what a Sagittarius is talking about? Pretty much no one. This sign uses misspellings and inside jokes with themselves to make their points. They’ll send you a sentence that’s all hyphens and you won’t have any idea what tone this is meant to be. Sagittarius will also reference a bunch of their favorite shows and academic articles while having a conversation and, if you don’t get it, you don’t get what they’re trying to say. Texting for Sagittarius, is all about style.
The best way to communicate with a Sagittarius is to just communicate in your own style. Do something that they don’t get. Make up a word or two. They’ll let it slip by like they get it but it really it makes them more curious about you. You have to make Sagittarius wonder what the hell you’re talking about to get them to listen to you. And get ready—they’re also prepared to get competitive over who can get the most obscure.
Capricorn: Really Shitty Phone
Like Taurus and Virgo, a lot of earth signs don’t really text. The thing with Capricorn is that they have a really shitty phone. They’ve had it for a very long time and it’s always worked so there’s no reason to change it but keep in mind that most of the emojis you send a Capricorn show up as a little X in a box, they don’t have any messenger app except regular SMS, and prefer to email on a desktop. Don’t go for a subtle emoji or use online slang with a Capricorn. They won’t get it.
The best way to communicate with a Capricorn is through long-ass emails, not text messages. They’ll read and reply to emails that are several paragraphs long because reading and writing these feel like a project to Capricorn. This makes them feel efficient while texting makes them feel like they’re wasting time. See the logic?
Aquarius: Space Cadet
Two words: space cadet. Aquarius doesn’t text back and they don’t because they never saw that you texted them, to begin with. This is why Aquarius replies to your question about what they really need in a relationship days later with a link to an article about the updated Amazon shipping policies and what this means for online consumerism.
It’s important not to rely on texting with beginning a relationship with an Aquarius but, unlike Taurus or Scorpio, this doesn’t mean you can rely on face to face time with them either. You might see Aquarius once a week, maybe less. Any more and they will start to act out. What you get when you start to date an Aquarius is a bunch of movie recommendations for unknown B movies from the 1980s (which they expect you to see without them), phone conversation about the weird epiphanies they got at 3:00 AM, and a bunch of observations about yourself since Aquarius knows you better than you know yourself.
Treat an Aquarius like a good friend and you’ll have them for a lifetime. If you really need them, they’ll be there for you. It’s just that they don’t want to see you that often.
Pisces: It’s You, Not Me
Pisces is the worst at texting. When they’re interested, you’ll get a lot of replies but none of them make sense. When they’re in a new relationship, Pisces is too busy worrying whether they’re making their new person uncomfortable to know how they feel. If they send you three hundred syringe emojis, it’s because they really like you and they’re trying to make you comfortable. If you take too long to text back, it’ll make them go into a full paranoid mode and they’ll ignore you for days to give you space.
See, Pisces has no idea what they need but they assume that everyone else just wants space away from them. The thing is, this also doesn’t change as the relationship gets more intimate. It gets worse.
If you don’t hear from a Pisces for a while, it’s best to approach them in a reassuring way. However, the thing is, Pisces might be the one who actually needs the space—their brains just told them that it was you who needed it.