Ask the Expert! Get Answers to Your Relationship Questions!

Executive Matchmaker and Relationship Counselor, Carol-Sugar-Burke, offers expert love advice.

Dear Carol,

As we get closer to WorldPride, I realize another year has passed, and I have had a few short term relationships but I’m still single. I always end up with women that I know are not right for me, and I realize this really is not going anywhere from the moment we meet. So needless to say, about two months later I find myself single again and just happy it’s over. I know I like being in a relationship, and I know I truly want to meet an equal partner; I just seem to attract the wrong type of women for me. How do you know when someone is right for you, and how do you avoid a doomed relationship? I like women who are not as serious as me, who are more flirtatious than I am and who choose me. I like to be hunted, and yet the women I would choose don’t seem to choose me. Do you have any suggestions?


Dear Puzzled,

It’s always nice to be “hunted” as opposed to being the “hunter”–however, that doesn’t mean just because you’re the object of their affection that they will end up being your perfect match. It’s important to keep an open mind when you meet new people; at the same time, if someone is not right for you, then there’s no point in pretending they are. Life is not about a fulfilling a checklist. That being said, a one-sided relationship never ends well. Think about what’s important to you, and why these women have not been right for you. Perhaps you’re afraid of making a long term commitment. Are you entering into these relationships because you know they’re not going anywhere? If this is not the case and you truly are ready to enter into a long-term relationship, then start fresh and look at new avenues and places to meet someone. If you’re attending WorldPride, perhaps you’ll meet someone there. If not, you can always ask for the help of a Matchmaker. We’re here and happy to help you.


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