Welcome to “Seven Minutes in Heaven,” GO Magazine’s brand new interview series that profiles a different queer lady each day, by asking her seven custom (sometimes random) questions. Get to know the thoughts, feelings, and opinions of the groundbreaking, fierce forces-of-nature in the queer community.
I first became aware of the fierce-force-of-queer-lady-nature that is Stephanie “Spermin” Berman when I had an experiential sex column for Elite Daily called “Sexperiences.” I was always hungry for new, interesting sex-content, and one dismal day I clicked my email open only to find an invite to an event at Babeland, celebrating a dildo that actually ejaculated.
As in it could get your Sapphic eggo preggo. Without sticking an unsexy turkey-baster up there, or sitting on the cold-steel table in a doctor’s office, or having sex (gag) with a dude (to those who do have sex with men, I see you, I’m not dismissing you, it’s just not my thing, honey!).
The product in question was called the POP Dildo™ and it was created by a woman named Stephanie “Spermin” Berman.
As a wildly maternal lesbian whose biological clock (much to my girlfriend’s fear and dismay) is ticking with the ferocity of the Big Ben, to say I was excited to learn about this product was the understatement of the year! I was elated. It was like discovering Santa Claus is real (I’m Jewish, but I still adore the concept of a jolly man giving me presents for being a ~good girl~).
I grabbed my editor, Alexia La Fata, and off we went to the event.
At the event, Berman gave a tutorial of how the POP Dildo™ worked and both Alexia and I were wide-eyed and completely amazed by the product. I was so moved by this ejaculating dildo that I penned a 2,400-word piece about it in less than two hours.
You can learn all about the wonder that is the POP Dildo™ here.
But today is all about the woman behind the marvelous POP Dildo™.
So sit back, relax, and learn all about the amazing, groundbreaking Stephanie Berman for today’s rendition of “Seven Minutes In Heaven.”
GO Magazine: Who are you and what do you do?
Stephanie Berman: My name is Stephanie “Spermin” Berman, and I am the Founder of the patented ejaculating sex toy, POP Dildo™. POP was originally created to help me and my wife try and conceive our children in the privacy of our own home, rather than using the dreadful “turkey baster method,” or a needle-less syringe, for home insemination.
POP soon became an affordable, intimate, private, and, most importantly, fun way for same sex couples to conceive at home. The product has now blossomed into something that many sex-positive communities are supporting, such as those wanting a toy for gender affirmation, gender role play, trans-masculine men / FTMs, or just your regular kinkster! It’s been incredible to see the evolution of the toy over the past 5 years.
GO: What is the driving force behind your career?
SB: One of the major driving forces in my career is simply wanting to educate and share what I have created with people all over the world. I have worked in women’s reproductive health for over 14 years, and have seen so many couples struggle with trying to conceive. It can be such an emotional rollercoaster—and an expensive one at that. While my product may not necessarily be the answer to their problems, it is an exciting option for same-sex couples that, at one point, we did not have access to. Being my own success story (my wife and I conceived both of our children with POP), I want to share that story with the community, and if it helps just one more person realize their dream of having a family, well, that’s all the drive I need to keep moving forward.
GO: Where do you go for inspiration when you’re feeling discouraged or depleted?
SB: Being an entrepreneur and a business owner can often be discouraging and depleting, but can also be quite rewarding. When I need inspiration, the first people I go to are my wife and kids; they can instantly put a smile on my face and replenish my tank. I think about the feeling I had when I found out my wife was pregnant and knowing my invention was what helped us conceive—that is a feeling I will never forget. When I need inspiration, I think of that exact moment, and it motivates me to want to help other people and couples experience the same feeling I had. Another great motivator for me is when other couples share their success stories with me; it really makes all the blood, sweat, and tears worth it.
GO: Who are your biggest queer lady role models?
SB: The obvious would be Ellen DeGeneres. I think it’s incredible how she has normalized, to so many, what being a lesbian woman is. There aren’t many people I know of who would say something negative about Ellen. I also love and admire her generosity, and how she uses her star power for good. I’ve recently been really inspired by how many mainstream actors, actresses, athletes, and people in positions of power and influence are coming out and speaking out for the LGBTQ+ community. Many of my role models are not necessarily queer-identified, but they are bad-ass lady boss bitches, and those are people I’m proud to call role models!
GO: Describe yourself in three words?
SB: Persistent, thoughtful, and motivated.
GO: What music are you listening to right now?
SB: I am all over the place with music! It totally depends on the day you ask me, and my mood at the time. On a Friday afternoon after work, I’ll be listening to some old-school hip-hop, or something fun, like Drake, to get me ready for the weekend. If I’m feeling down, my go-to are singer-songwriters like Amos Lee or Ray Lamontagne. Alicia Keys has always been one of my favorites, too.
GO: Where can people find you?
SB: People can find me on Facebook or on Twitter or our website. I recently started writing a blog on the website, and I always personally answer each email from my customers—so if you reach out, you can be sure the response will be directly from me!