The Feels Queer edition 12: an event for LGBTQIA+ love seekers in NYC

An IRL experience for those who are thoughtfully approaching dating.

// about \\

‘the feels’ is a 3-hour in-person dating event in NYC, designed for people who want more intentional, embodied ways of meeting and connecting with others.

Part somatic experience, part mindful singles event, part human connection experiment — ‘the feels ‘offers a different way to date: slower, more grounded, and rooted in emotional awareness.

Created by Allie Hoffman as part of her masters degree thesis work at Columbia University’s Spirit Mind Body Institute, ‘the feels’ blends psychology, embodiment practices, mindfulness, and authentic relating into one immersive evening.

The format builds off the work of Carl Jung, Joseph Campbell, Dr Martha Eddy, the Buddha + the Tavistock Institute – among others.

‘The feels’ level 1 experience guides you through structured pairings and group moments that include meditations, deep prompts, positive reflections, and somatic elements like eye gazes + hugs.

‘The feels’ believes that =>

Better relating is possible.
Your body holds infinite wisdom, and listening tothat can give you more valuable ‘information’ about connection than suface-level facts like where someone lives or where they work;
Online dating has left us treating each other badly; the way back is to show up with kindness, and care – which we facilitate you into expressions of;
Co-regulation is powerful – and we’re here to help you experience it;
Discomfort is OK. When you learn to sit at the edge of discomfort, and self-soothe – that it empowers a sense of self and pride that fortifies you;
If all you do at ‘the feels’ is write a love letter to you – we’re really happy w that. We don’t promise you that you’ll meet the love of your life – but we can guarantee that you’ll walk away with a stronger sense of your own amazing’ness.

More things to know about ‘the feels’ =>

in partnership with Columbia, survey data we have collected shows that 70% of all ‘feels’ level 1 attendees will walk out the contact info for someone they’re excited about;
Our experience is facilitated by professionals holding masters degrees (or higher) in the fields of mental health, movement, therapy, performance, and sexual health – among others;
Your ticket includes unlimited light bites, alcoholic + non alc beverage options;
We’re here to build a community of people who believe – like we do – that its possible to treat each other better. Your purchasing this ticket connects you to the broader ‘feels’ community via WhatsApp groups + a series of offerings only available to Level 1 alumni.