Whitney’s New Reality

Whitney Mixter’s new life has set her on a dramatically different path than when we were first introduced to her on “The Real L Word” in 2010. She no longer rocks her signature-length dreadlocks—a literal weight lifted off her shoulders.

At 34, Whitney said she’s also feeling the pregnancy pull—with or without a partner.

“My clock is ticking,” she said. “I’m trying to have a baby. I don’t think you need to get married to have a baby now. I mean, I’m 34—shit is getting real, you know what I’m saying? I feel like my womb is turning into Pong soon and there’s going to be, like, one egg. I want to have two, but I want to birth one. Because if my body can do it, I want to see what’s cracking.”

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As for how the public will respond to the news of she and Sada’s separation, Whitney has prepared herself for a few different reactions but hopes her fans will be understanding.

“Unfortunately and fortunately, a lot of people looked up to us and our relationship because we made it through,” Whitney said. “You know, we were the couple that people didn’t think would last, and we were like ‘Fuck you, look—we made it!’ And now we’re like, ‘Just kid-ding—we didn’t make it.’ But we’re human beings and things change and people change. We’re on different paths now; we’re different people.”

Ultimately, Whitney doesn’t see the relationship’s end as a failure—it’s just another learning opportunity, a chance to figure out who she is and what she wants.

“This was my first relationship where I dove in headfirst—really gave it my all, felt really selfless in it, and now I know I have the capability to be that for somebody else in the future,” she said. “And I feel good about it. I feel like I’m going to be going in way more blunt about what I’m looking for and what I need to build a successful relationship and I think it’ll be good for the future. It’ll be good for both of us, whoever she may be.”

 


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